Is sexual intercourse unexpectedly physically difficult or painful for you? Have you been diagnosed with dyspareunia or vaginismus? These are the two main reasons my clients seek out help via sex coaching and hypnosis.
Vaginismus is an involuntary spasm of the vaginal wall, or the muscles around the vagina. It can make sexual intercourse difficult, painful and even sometimes impossible. These muscles tighten up all by themselves, even when you are looking forward to sex or feel that you are aroused. As soon as it comes to penetration, it's as if a door just slams shut.
Dyspareunia often defined as persistent or recurrent genital pain that occurs just before, during or after intercourse can present itself even with tampon usage. You may feel throbbing pain, burning or aching pain, pain with penetration, or deep pain during thrusting.
Repeated occurrences can leave you anxious, frustrated, angry, even guilty - all kinds of mixed emotions, putting a strain on relationships.
If sexual intercourse is often painful for you, it's important to ask your doctor to check if some physical condition is causing it. If that gets ruled out, your doctor may conclude that there is an underlying psychological cause.
What can that be?
Emotions are deeply intertwined with sexual activity, so it is possible that they are playing a role in sexual pain. Once you experience this, you encounter a cycle of pain that is difficult to break because it is programmed in your subconscious mind.
Emotional factors include:
Psychological issues. Anxiety, depression, concerns about your physical appearance, fear of intimacy or relationship problems can contribute to a low level of arousal and a resulting discomfort or pain, as well as history of painful intercourse.
Stress. Your pelvic floor muscles tend to tighten in response to stress in your life. This can contribute to pain during intercourse.
History of sexual abuse. Not every woman with dyspareunia has a history of sexual abuse, but if you have been abused, it can play a role.
Using hypnosis, I am able to reframe beliefs and release old emotional connections with painful sex.
My most recent client, a 25 year old female came to me in search of a saving grace as she had been suffering from vaginismus for 4 years and couldn't even relax for physical therapy. Lucky for her, she found one. In addition to Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy, we used a psychological approach to ease her discomfort. Using hypnosis, we increased her body and sexual confidence, while also allowing her to feel comfort, pleasure, and ease during her session which she could then link to physical intimacy. Her stress and anxiety improved, and her spasms disappeared within 2 of her 4 sessions. Hypnosis not only works, it works FAST. Schedule your sessions today and take back your sex life!