I talk to so many moms on a day to day basis. One of their MAIN concerns is not feeling sexy once they have their baby, especially within the first few months. It is OK! Don't feel like you have to jump back in to being a sexy woman 1 month after your baby is born. The celebrities are all posting their pictures of their "snap back" bodies and might be making you feel like you have failed at life. Don't forget, they have access to a lot more than most women, especially during pregnancy. They can afford perfectly calculated delivered meals, personal trainers, botox, facials, nannies, etc. All of that helps to get your pre baby body back and feeling sexy again. Allow yourself time. Here is what you CAN do!
Take time for yourself. I know it sounds crazy because you have this new baby sucking the life out of you (maybe literally and figuratively)...believe me I have been there BUT it is so important to take some time for yourself and unwind and practice self-care. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Ask your partner or a friend to help you out so you can take 30 minutes to an hour and take a long shower, get a workout in, shave your legs.
Workout with your baby. If your baby is young enough to just hang out, turn on some music and get moving. Your baby will enjoy you bouncing around and doesn't care what you look like doing it. If your baby is older, use him/her as a weight. I do squats, arm lifts, side bends, etc. all with my 30lb baby! She LOVES it.
Have an orgasm. A lot of times, women get scared to have sex after their birth, especially if they tore. Ease your way into it. Give yourself an orgasm. Not only will this help you to feel like a sexual being again, it will relax you and make you happy. If you do it right before bed, it will also help you sleep. You can use a simple vibrating bullet for this or the good old fashioned way.
Ask for help. One thing I didn't do and I wish I did was ask for help. I couldn't do everything that needed to be done, especially as a single mom AND take care of myself. I did the best I could, but it took me a few months to get a system going. Not to mention, my daughter didn't properly nurse for 4 months so it was frustration city most of my day.
I hope that the 4 ideas above give you a jump start to feeling sexy again. If not, what do you need help with? Let me know!